Parenting – Getting Started & Next Steps

Preparing to Become a Foster Parent

The decision to become a foster parent has many rewards and joys to it. There are many children out there who wish for a family to take them in. More and more people are opting to adopt, whether they can have their own or not.

There are great resources for those who decide to become foster parents. Such a decision has a lot of gravity to it. You need to be clear on why you are doing this. You thus need to make an informed decision.

You need to be prepared for changes to your house if you are to fit in another person. Each state has its set of rules regarding the set up and regulations of foster homes. You need to be aware of what you can and cannot do when you become a foster parent.

You need to take into consideration your existing children, and the impact your decision will have on them. You need to also think of your spouse, and their thoughts on this move. It shall be better for you if you were all in agreement.

There are skills you will have to acquire to be an effective foster parent. There are virtues you cannot afford to miss, such as patience and kindness. There is usually foster parent training given by the competent foster care agencies, such as Children’s Hope Residential Services. This will prepare you for what’s coming.

If you are single, you need to establish a support system that shall fill in for the absent spouse. You could have adopted a difficult child who will need you to be tough. You will need the services of the agency more then. You can stay in touch with other foster parents for their support.

You need to prepare your communication skills well. There shall be a new person to get to know. You will also be interacting with the social workers, therapists, the present birth family, and the court officials. It is important that there is no friction between all of you for this to work. You have your role you need to fulfill.

You need to also be strong when it comes to dealing with the occasional or frequent display of difficult behavior from the child. You will see most of them having backgrounds filed with terrible and abusive instances. They will thus be driven by fear or anger some of the time. You need to know what to do at such times.

You need to see how well you are ready to do this before committing. A good foster agency will be there to offer advice, support and direction as needed. They shall make sure you are ready before they introduce you to the child.